Category: Dating

Imagine a new world of dating where:

-People can’t lie about height, weight, and other aspects of physical appearance
-You can actually tell if a person is real or a catfish
-You can know if you’re compatible with someone before you go on the first date
-You can experience important aspects of dating like scent, charisma, charm, and body language as soon as you meet

If this sounds too good to be true, then you need to step away from your phone because what I’ve described is known as “real world dating.” In fact, it’s not a “new” way of dating at all, but the way people have fallen in love for millenia, long before dating apps cursed us to the whims of the algorithm.

The other day a good friend of mine and I went to the Gallery Hop, an event held monthly in our city where people visit various art galleries, shops, and bars. We attend these to have fun, experience culture, and meet new people.

Next to us at a coffee shop, we noticed three women glued to their phones. Incredibly two of them were on Bumble. They were mostly swiping left and complaining about all of the bad guys on the app.

They were in the midst of a social event with thousands of people in one of the most vibrant sections of the city. But, instead of meeting the educated, cultured guys all around them and talking to them, they were swiping left on losers.

I’m not here to bash technology because I love it. But, technology has definitely contributed to the loneliness epidemic sweeping America. People are glued to their phones and socially isolated. And, they only try to find love via technology where they are limited by algorithms and platforms that turn them into a picture and a headline.

The way to break free is to talk to people in the real world. While you might be limited by geography and schedules, at least by meeting people at bars, coffee shops, on the train, at work, and at social events, you bypass a lot of the nonsense of online dating.

That cute guy you’ve never seen online after months on Tinder? You can say “hi” at the Starbucks counter. The girl who filtered you out on Match because you didn’t make enough money? You can flirt with her while ordering drinks at the bar. Your future soulmate? He or she could be anyone of the the hundreds of people you encounter, but ignore on a regular basis!

Meeting in the real world can be tough. Even thinking about it could give you anxiety. It’s so much easier to swipe and match in the comfort of your own home. Or is it?

I like to remind people that online dating is actually difficult and stressful. You spend a lot of time matching and messaging only to be ghosted in a week. Or, you get the person out and he or she looks and acts nothing like the online persona. So, it’s back to the drawing board. And then there’s the outright lying, deception, spamming, bots, scammers, and time wasters you have to wade through.

While meeting people in the real world can be anxiety inducing upfront, at least you’re saving yourself a lot of the headaches and heartaches that online dating brings.

For example, if you see a cute guy on the train, talk to him and you give him your number, you know what he looks like, you know you find him cute in the real world, and you’ve bonded briefly. If he texts you and you get along, then you’re already way ahead of the game.

In the real word, you see people you like and choose to meet them. You can experience their personality, their looks, and all of the intangibles of attraction. You decide then and there if you like them. And, above all, your options aren’t limited by artificial preferences or algorithms. You control your destiny. Do you talk to them or not? That’s it.

Yes, you might be rejected. In fact, you will be rejected.  But, at least you can “shoot your shot” rather than never be seen at all because you’re out of someone’s preference ranges or the algorithm thinks you’re a bad match. And, did I mention algorithms suck at finding love anyway?

Also, the more you try it, the better you’ll become at meeting new people in the real world. And, you won’t be rejected. Trust me, going on a date with someone you met and asked out in the real world is one of the greatest feelings in the world.

This month we’ll be focusing on ways to succeed in real world dating. But, it’s easier than you think. It’s often as simple as hanging out in the right places, being friendly, saying hi to strangers, talking to people you see regularly, and offering to followup. Sure, it can be harrowing at times. But, the reward is great.

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When I was in 8th grade, my school thought it would be a great idea for us students to fill out a questionnaire and run all of them through computer matchmaking software, and then give us a sheet of compatible people. This was in the era of floppy disks, but nonetheless, I had a strange amount of faith that a computer would succeed in finding me the right person, since my awkward teenage self wasn’t very good at doing it.

When the results arrived, I was extremely disappointed. My top matches weren’t even close to the girls I liked in real life. Others complained as well, as their boyfriends and girlfriends weren’t on their top list. The only “couple” that did have a high match percentage was my brother and a girl who liked him (whom he ended up dating), but that’s because she got a hold of his answers and changed hers accordingly.

It sounds absurd that anyone would base love on a software program’s suggestions, but that’s exactly what we are doing when we hand over control of our dating lives to dating apps

In the early days of dating apps, you pretty much saw everybody and could message everybody. Then women started realizing something. Online dating is a lot like being a single woman at a club full of drunk and horny men. There are a lot of guys competing for their attention. So, women would get inundated with messages from all kinds of guys…married guys, much younger guys, much older guys, creeper guys, ugly guys, guys from all over the world, scammer guys, and every other type of guy imaginable.

So, dating apps started to restrict men’s access to women accordingly. They not only gave women more choice in their filters, but they also made it so many guys wouldn’t even be seen unless they fell into a narrow band of what women claimed they were looking for in a guy.

Swipe apps were perfect for this, because a guy couldn’t just shoot a random message to a woman unless she matched with him first.

But then even swipe apps started getting crazy. Women were literally matching with every guy that came up because guys were pretty much liking every woman. Women were sick of sorting through so many perceived duds, they wanted to not even see most guys. So, swipe apps started developing algorithms so that most guys just became invisible.

All of this seems like a good development, but the problem is that we are dealing with human love and attraction, not picking which computer to buy.

Love is far messier and more complicated.

For one, machine learning sucks at matching people at least if the criteria is real-world attraction and connection. I believe part of this is because humans in general suck at knowing what we really like from people.

Things like smell, presence, charm, kindness, and even a person’s immunity level all go into real world attraction and connection. These are more important than the things we logically say matter (or that dating apps tell us matter), like common interests, political views, and even a person’s exact age, height, or weight. Attraction is more of a gut feeling than a combination of logical check-boxes.

Dating apps can’t measure for these things.

An algorithm simply can’t “get” chemistry, at least not yet. It can’t find you that unexpected person who takes your breath away for reasons you aren’t sure of. And, this is assuming dating app algorithms are even designed to get you into a relationship. I mean, a billion dollar company like Match Group (which owns Tinder, Hinge, OK Cupid, and Match) certainly has our best interests in mind, right?

I often joke that a lot of people wouldn’t even see some of their biggest crushes on dating apps. Your boss you can’t stop thinking about at work? You didn’t know he was in his 30s instead of his 20s because he looks young for his age, did you? He’s out.

The guy you see on the subway every day who smells amazing? He lives 25 miles away and is actually 5’8″ and not 5’10” so he’s out of your range on both filters.

Even if you did have your filters set as openly as possible, dating algorithms tend to show you a narrow subset of people, and heavily restrict the guys you see, so you probably wouldn’t see either of them on a dating app anyway, unless you swiped for hours.

An app was recently released that showed how limiting dating app algorithms can be. The more you swipe, the more the app limits the types of people you’ll see. By the end, you are only seeing a narrow band of people (or monsters in the case of the app mentioned above).

So, you may not be seeing the very people you would connect with in real life, but are instead seeing a very narrowly defined group of people you think you’ll connect with. This may be why the success statistics related to relationships derived from online dating aren’t very encouraging.

Imagine if real life worked this way. The people you have come to fall for over time, or whom you fell for that initially weren’t your “type,” wouldn’t exist in your awareness.

If there should be a dating theme for 2019, it should be “break free from the algorithms.”

Guys need to break free because they simply aren’t being seen. They are invisible to most women, and have no way to project what matters online to be seen: their personalities, presence, etc.

If you don’t believe me, keep in mind that despite the rise of online dating’s popularity, the number of guys who are involuntarily single has skyrocketed, and includes 1 in 3 men under 30 who haven’t had sex in the last year. In fact I recently wrote an article suggesting men should simply go “offline” and meet women in person because that’s their only real hope these days to stand out.

Women need to break free because they aren’t leading to the quality relationships that most women want. Relationships that began online are 28% more likely to break down in the first year, and marriages from online dating are three times more likely to end in divorce (see this).

There is also the issue that algorithms enable men to be players. There is evidence that most women are liking the same subset of guys. For example on the Hinge app 1% of guys received 16% of all female likes. The top ten percent of men got over 50% of female likes! This means that a small subset of guys (the ones women are all liking) have a constant stream of women liking them.

This explains the flaking, ghosting, and rejections of exclusivity many women complain about, because many of the guys the algorithm is showing you are getting a constant cycle of women matching with them. These guys have no incentive to ever settle down, or if they do, it will be with the absolute, most perfect woman of the bunch.

So, for men and women both, breaking free from the algorithm means: talking to people you meet in real life, approaching people, taking out your headphones, showing openness, smiling, flirting, being present in the moment instead of being buried in your phone, stop playing “hard to get,” etc. Basically, it means going back to the way people made chemistry-filled connections in the past: in the real world, where the only limiting algorithm is you.

Dating profiles run the gamut from amazing to painful. The amazing ones are the people you’d like to date, while the painful ones can elicit a left swipe and hopefully a good laugh (unless, of course, you’re the one with a painfully bad profile). But, most of the profiles are in what could be called the “boring middle.”

Most people have no idea how to get noticed online and know little about writing a successful online dating profile. If anything, they do the opposite.

For example, you like tacos? So do 99% of people. Own a dog? Again, you’re pretty much like everyone else. Sharing an inspirational quote? Yeah, everyone has already seen that fake Marilyn Monroe quote plastered over social media. Heck, for many guys, simply coming up with a profile must be too difficult because many of our women clients complain about men not even putting up a single word.

I’m not a big fan of online dating for many reasons. However, there definitely is a place for it. But, if your profile is boring, offensive, or even average, you might as well not even bother wasting your time. But, you can find success with your online dating profile. Here are four basic tips to write one that finds you love.

Be Positive

“Broke ass guys swipe left” or “I want a guy with ambition, goals, and a good job.” Which do you think is more inviting for a guy?

I have a very good job and would never be considered “broke.” But, I’d never in a million years match with someone who frames her desire for a financially stable guy like the first person.

While it’s necessary to exclude people to avoid wasting time, I’d recommend keeping your profile positive rather than negative. You can even express your preferences in positive ways with a little creativity.

By keeping it positive, you’re doing two things. First, you’re showing the world that you’re tactful and have a good attitude. Second, you’re not turning off the very guys you’re trying to impress. To go back to the first example, very few guys with culture, education, and money are going to go for a girl using the words “broke ass” and calling out other guys.

Be Different

I’ve done numerous personal experiments with online dating and I can tell you that most profiles look almost exactly alike. Sure, the photos and wording differ slightly, but people generally follow the same motifs. I’m sure you’ve noticed this too.

When writing your profile, try to avoid being too general. Share details that will set you apart from the crowd. It’s helpful to ask yourself: “how many other people can say the same thing?” If it’s more than fifty percent, then put something else.

For example, instead of writing “Game of Thrones junkie” talk about more unique or obscure television interests. Rather than expressing your love for the latest pop star, mention how you have a special place in your heart for trap music (or something else unusual). Don’t talk about your job which almost everyone has. Share how you love music theory instead. You get the point.

You might think that this seems backwards because don’t you want to share things you’ll have in common? The answer is actually “no!” You want to share unique traits and interests that make you stand out and that will cause others to reach out to you and start interesting conversations. Remember that online dating is a saturated market. You have to stand out and be noticed, not blend in.

Online dating is brutal and one study showed the abysmally low response rates even after matching. It shows you have to be different than everyone else, but in a good way, to even find a small amount of success.

Be Concise

You might think it’s a great idea to “lay it all out” when filling out your dating profile that way your match knows exactly what he or she is getting from the start. So, you share everything from your deepest desires to the time you accidentally called your teacher “mommy” in second grade.

However, this isn’t the best method to find quality people to date. For one, in person dating is where most of the information about your life should come out. There is great excitement in finding out more about each other over dinner, drinks, and long walks home. By sharing it all upfront, you’re taking a lot of the romance out of the process.

Second, you’re more likely to turn off a potential date who might otherwise like you. Once people meet and fall for each other, they’re a lot more likely to accept flaws and eccentricities. When they’re reading your life story online in paragraph form, their logical brain takes over and they see them as red flags.

Don’t lie. But, also don’t feel you have to tell your whole life story in your profile. See it like a resume of sorts. Put your best foot forward, but don’t overshare. And, for goodness sake, leave room for a little mystery!

Be Available

I’ve seen a lot of profiles where people talk about traveling the world every two months or how their job (or kids) are their lives. While I love traveling, spend a lot of time at work, and certainly treasure my daughter, wording is everything.

If you’re on a dating app and actually want to get a date, you have to show the world that you’re actually open and available to date. If your profile gives the impression that you are going to be too busy to date, too distracted for a relationship, or otherwise unavailable (even emotionally), a lot of people are simply going to not match with you. Well, one type of will message you if you come across as emotionally unavailable: players, who also are emotionally unavailable and prefer that you are.

Most people are understanding of things like work, family, and travel commitments. But, if they get the impression that you have no room in your life for them, they aren’t going to favor you over the hundreds of other people on the app who actually express that they have the time and energy to commit to dating.

While online dating might not be a ton of fun, if you try these tips, you will definitely improve your chances of finding someone quality to date. At the very least, you will be welcoming to the kinds of men and women that you truly want in your life.

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I believe there is a lot more to attraction than physical looks, especially when women are evaluating men for attractiveness (men do place a large emphasis on physical looks in person and online, but that’s not the full story). So, I want to make this article fairly practical and explain how women and men both can make some simple changes to take and include better photos for your online dating profile.

First though, I want to explain the purpose of photos. When men evaluate photos, we are mainly looking at facial attractiveness, bodily attractiveness, and signs of availability (i.e. would she be into me). Men evaluate women’s profiles almost entirely on looks, and then we will (maybe) read the profile if we are looking for something more long-term and high quality. However, the good news is that guys find 60% of women attractive online.

Women, however, tend to want more from photos of guys. Yes, they want an attractive guy, but they want guys to show their personalities through the photos, which is why most women I know complain when guys only post selfies. Women want photos of guys doing things, mainly to show what kinds of worlds these guys inhabit, and what world these women would inhabit if they were to date them. Women are trying to gauge if the guys have a good social life, and are confident, kind, and interesting.  Since guys are often bad at taking photos (and just as clueless as to what constitutes good photos), this may explain why women find 80% of guys unattractive online (see the previous link).

Ultimately for men and women both, your photos should show the real, but best version, of you – the fun, open, and exciting person who loves life and wants someone else to share in it. If you follow this principle you’ll avoid posting ridiculously serious selfies (like a lot of men) and showing up as some kind of god or goddess (a tendency of most women) that nobody could ever dream of connecting with.

These general tips should help you use photos that will give you an edge online.

For Men

The biggest thing men can do is to stop posting horrible photos (or at least stop posting only horrible photos). This includes avoiding mirror selfies, or even worse, mirror selfies where you look so serious that you look like a serial killer (I promise you that you don’t look like a superhero…you look like a killer).

Also, stop posting photos where you look like a total slob. And, a photo of you in jean shorts with an old T-shirt with the shoulders cut out is not a good look (i.e. you’re a slob).

Don’t rely only on selfies. In fact have a female friend help you take a few photos that aren’t only the product of your front-facing camera.

Instead, include photos that show your personality (and the best side of it!). If your photos convey that you’re a fun, confident, and successful guy, women will be far more likely to match with you, even if you’re not physically perfect.

Women love guys in suits, or at the very least dressed sharply. I suggest having a “business” head shot of some kind. This shows confidence and leadership, traits women love.

Also, it’s a good idea to post photos of you doing fun and interesting things. Did you run a marathon? Post a photo from that. Do you play guitar with a band? Post a photo of that. Did you travel to a cool place? Post a photo of that.

I like including at least one photo with a pet (of you with a pet; not just the pet alone). This shows you like animals, and many women place a high value on that.

If you don’t have any photos that fit these categories, then go out and get some. If you don’t do anything fun, exciting, or that would add value to a woman’s life if she knew you, then you need to focus on that.

Also make sure the photos are high quality, i.e. in focus, cropped properly, and even slightly enhanced if necessary. Women love a guy’s eyes, and if you can highlight your eyes, that’s always a great look. Here’s a tutorial on how to make them “pop” in Photoshop. Some apps like Facetune can do this (and other tricks) on your phone (although it does cost a few dollars). Just go easy on this, because women are masters of using Facetune and will see through it if it’s overdone.

For Women

Most women I know do a pretty good job with photos. You all know what we guys are looking for, which is why most female profiles have photos that make you look the best in terms of physical attractiveness. However, I’m going to give you a tip that will help you match with quality guys.

Many guys can be intimidated by your “perfect” photos. Many women’s profile photos these days are not only perfect photos physically (for example, they may choose the absolute best photo of 50 taken that day, but also Facetune the hell out of that), but they also show them doing all kinds of amazing things. This can be intimidating, especially to guys without supreme confidence, because they don’t think they have a chance.

Guess which guys often have extreme confidence? Yep. Players!

If you come across as almost inhuman, then it’s no surprise that players will flock to you because they too will gladly view you as inhuman.

So, it’s important to show your humanity, at least if you want a caring and kind guy. This involves showing your emotional availability. While a lot of women show their sexual availability through their photos (cleavage shots, bikini photos, etc – and while that may not be your intention, that is what guys are picking up, trust me), they aren’t showing a lot of emotional availability.

So, show yourself looking ordinary and being ordinary. Come across as less of a supermodel or Instagram influencer, and more of a person a guy would see shopping at a grocery store. Even if you aren’t classically physically attractive, many guys will love it if you seem normal and human. In fact many guys would rather not engage someone who only presents as physically perfect.

Also, avoid photos that aren’t of you. What’s up with inspirational sayings as photos? Or photos of just your pets? When guys see this they will assume you must look awful. Only the most creepy of guys will engage these profiles.

So, switch up those photos and you’ll find that your online dating prospects might start getting better right away!

A friend of mine recently showed me his interaction with several women on Bumble that went nowhere. He asked what he did wrong and wanted help reviving the convsersations. The reality was that he was funny, engaging, and showed genuine curiosity. But, I’d summarize the conversation of his matches as “boring, bordering on rude.”

One girl, for example, simply typed “terrible response” to a comment he made. Another gave him one word replies to his questions, but then never asked any questions herself. A third one started making plans with him. Then, when those plans were almost settled, she immediately ghosted him.

Can you imagine this behavior in real life? You go out with friends, meet someone new, and make conversation. Then that person says, “terrible response.” Or, you make plans with someone and then that person walks away with no explanation. Or, what about a dinner conversation with one word answers and no follow up questions?

When it comes to bad behavior online, you’ve probably seen it all, even outside of dating apps. People who are shy at work can be vicious trolls online. Someone who never brings up politics to friends will argue his or her candidate’s position to the death on social media. A guy who’d never whip out his junk in public thinks it’s OK to send unsolicited dick pics.

There is often a divide between the real person and the online persona. Sometimes this divide is small while other times it’s the size of the grand canyon. The bigger the divide, the more difficult dating will be, whether you’re matching with people who are radically inauthentic or you’re trying to be someone completely different online.

The online dating experience allows and even encourages in authenticity for a few reasons.

First, the system itself is very shallow. I don’t have a problem with focusing on physical appearance. I think it’s an essential part of attraction. But, the very nature of online dating turns you into a photo, a bio, and a few questions. That’s shallow in the sense of only scratching the surface of who you really are.

Second, with so many people trying to be fake online (more than half of users lie), there’s a lot of pressure for you to be fake too. If a guy who is 6’2” is adding two inches of height to be more impressive, imagine how the guy who is 5’4” feels. The same goes for a woman who might shave off a few years or a few pounds because to not do so would put her at a competitive disadvantage against other women who are using dishonest techniques.

Finally, people simply behave differently behind a screen. It might not even be malicious like a mild-mannered accountant turning into a horrible, angry troll online. Even someone who is fun, friendly, and witty in person could appear boring, judgmental, and cold when messaging via an online platform.

You might think my solution to this problem is just to “be yourself.” However, as I’ve stated countless times in the past, many people take the advice of “be yourself” as an excuse to showcase all of their worst, or at least less than attractive, qualities. This is what leads to the kind of bad behavior I’ve referenced above (e.g. junk pics). But, it could also mean simply presenting yourself in an unappealing way on dating apps.

The solution is to “be your best self” online. So, when you’re at your best, you highlight the most ideal, commendable parts of your personality, while also showing vulnerability. So, you can accept that you’re not perfect while also putting your best foot forward (like in a job interview).

You’re not emphasizing your most undesirable traits, but you’re not pretending to be something you’re not either. This eliminates the oversharing that comes with unattractive profiles and conversations, but also the fakeness of people trying to clearly project a false image.

In addition, whatever represents the “core” you is reflected online, not only in your dating profile, but also all of your interactions. Just because you’re behind a keyboard, you don’t turn into a nasty troll, an idealized princess, or a boring jerk (unless you really are all of those things).

And, of course, the other side of the coin is true too: don’t be your worst self. That seems to be what happens during Twitter fights, trolling, online debates, and anything else that occurs when people hide behind the semi-anonymity that the internet allows. To take my first example, if you wouldn’t say “terrible response” to someone’s face, then don’t say it online.

Usually this means narrowing (or eliminating) the gap between who you are in the real world and your online persona. And, remember, this isn’t necessarily about the bad things you do online. It also can include texting in a boring way or carrying on a conversation, then ghosting.

In the end, narrowing this gap and being your best self will not only make you more authentic, but it will connect you to the people that you truly want to meet. It will also make your dates be more meaningful and better.

After all, if you both show up looking and acting like the real deal from your online interactions, you’re already that much closer to a great relationship–with none of the manipulation and nonsense that can happen with online dating.

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Over the last few months, I’ve been trying to expand my social circle. I had changed jobs and moved, and was looking for some new friends (not that I had an issue with my old ones; I still have them and love them!).

So, I was somewhat purposeful, and was more friendly in my regular places I hangout (including places where I regularly play trivia).

A few weeks ago I was thinking that I didn’t really have a lot of new people in my life. Then, I decided to look a little harder.

And, I “saw” what was right in front of me. My number of Facebook friends has gone up by about 100 in the last few months, and it was all the people I had met in real life.

I have played darts, played pool, and played trivia with a lot of cool people I have met over the last few months. I went from being on a trivia team of a few established friends, to now having up to six new people who join me.

I walk into some places and get hugs from five different people. People buy me food and drinks. They tell me about their musical interests, hobbies, and their lives. And, I do the same with them.

I have people that I can (and do) call when I need something to do, and who come to my events and gatherings.

I told myself I hadn’t really met a lot of new people, yet there were plenty of new friends right in front of my eyes. But, for some reason in my head, they didn’t “count.” I guess it happened so organically and gradually that they were outside my awareness.

This is a common dating mistake as well: missing what’s right in front of us.

I hear things like “oh he’s great…but he’s a co-worker.” Or, “she’s perfect for me…but she’s a server so she ‘has to be nice to me.’”

Or maybe you’ve felt something for someone for a long time, but you’ve labelled him or her as something that excludes romance, and you believe and reinforce the label. For example, you could see yourself marrying him instead of the 50 duds you dated from Tinder, but he’s “like a brother to you” so you dismiss him. Those duds on tinder? They’re “romantic options” (even though they ultimately aren’t, but you apply the label).

Maybe she doesn’t have a college education so you dismissed dating her, but she’s the kindest, nicest, and smartest person you know, and leagues ahead of the college educated but awful people you’ve gone on dates with over the last few months.

It could even be the people you pass every day on the street, or sit by on the subway. You have personal “rules” that exclude engaging them or even smiling at them or flirting. I have even seen people ignore smiling, happy people sitting near them to angrily swipe left on people on Tinder! Talk about ignoring what’s right before your eyes!

As the Gorillaz sing in their song “Clint Eastwood,” you don’t see with your eyes; you see with your mind.

So, “seeing” what’s in front of you doesn’t mean somehow improving your vision or even paying attention more to what you see (but that is part of it). It means doing some self-reflection on how your thoughts and actions are shaping how you approach dating (and the people you may possibly date).

It means questioning your rules, assumptions, and narratives about happiness and dating. It means asking who/what you’re paying attention to and who/what you’re ignoring.

For example, have you gone to the same club every weekend and met nobody, but refuse to even look up at anybody at the gym where you see loads of hot people because “you can’t bother people at the gym?”

Did you keep walking when two girls smiled at you just to go back to your apartment to browse Tinder where you know you never get a match?

Or, what about the narrative that you have to be in a relationship to be happy when the evidence may be clear that every relationship you’ve been in has made you miserable? Maybe being single for a while and seeing your friends more often is what you really want.

Or what about the narrative that your potential partner has to… (be over 6’0″, look like a model, be younger, be older, have a degree, etc), when you might have dated ten people like that and felt no connection for them?

While I’m not saying it’s necessarily always the case that the right person may be metaphorically under your nose, for many people, it might be true. How can you see something differently that may show you happiness is right within your grasp?

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