How To Tell If A Guy Likes You Through Text: 6 Clear Signs

woman holding iPhone“Does he like me or doesn’t he?”

My friend, knowing that I coach clients like her, shoved her phone in my face to show me some texts a guy sent her. “I really like him…do you think he likes me?” she asked, as if we were back in middle school.

I could tell instantly from his messaging that he liked her, a lot. She was skeptical of my psychic abilities, but, on their second date a week later, he spilled the beans. He wanted to be exclusive! She was ecstatic!

No, I’m not a psychic (not that I know of at least). I’ve just studied the signs of attraction. Knowing how to tell if a guy likes you through text isn’t too difficult if you know what to look for.

This article will go through several signs that a guy likes you–or not–just by looking at the text messages he sends you.

Quick Replies

All people pay attention to what they like, including men. They give their time, energy, money, and, above all, attention to various priorities. These could be friends, family, work, video games, etc.

If a guy prioritizes you through text, then he thinks you’re pretty great, at least in some way. The best way to show priority is a quick reply. If you know he’s busy and he still takes time to text you quickly, then you’re an even more important priority.

On the other hand, if he is very slow to reply even when you know he has free time, it shows that you’re not very high on his priority list.

Long Texts

Quick replies aren’t the only sign that a guy likes you through text. Another good indicator is the length of his texts. Does he send you sentences and paragraphs that are interesting and engaging? Or, do you get short and abrupt answers?

Long texts are a good sign of attraction because it’s another way you receive his time and attention. They also show a genuine effort to engage you and make conversation that go beyond small talk and surface conversation.

Now I should just mention that some guys are bad texters and never text in sentences. Personally, I think this is a horribly boring way to text, but if he gives brief replies to everyone, then you can ignore this paragraph.

Double Texting

Sometimes you might not reply for awhile because you’re busy or simply couldn’t get to your phone. That’s when you might get a  “double text.” This happens when a guy texts you and you don’t respond, so he texts you again at a later time.

This is a small way to tell if a guy likes you through text, but it’s usually pretty accurate.

Double texting shows that he checked his phone to see if you responded. And, when he saw you didn’t, he felt the need to reach out again. If he was simply ignoring you or didn’t care about your reply, he’d just wait and not bother with a second text. Double texting a girl can be a sign of neediness (or if it turns into triple or quadruple texting!), but it also means he likes you.

He Asks Questions

I can usually tell over text when a person isn’t that interested, either for dating or friendship. It happens when it feels like I’m carrying the entire conversational burden. Usually it means I’m asking all of the questions. Our texts turn into an endless stream of my questions and the other person’s answers.

man in suit with a smartphoneHowever, if the other person actually bothers to ask questions, it shows that they like me. The same is true of the guys you text.

Asking you questions demonstrates two things.

First, it shows they are interested in an actual conversation. He isn’t merely replying with words, but asking questions shows he wants genuine engage and connection.

Second, and most importantly, asking questions shows that that he is actively getting to know you and building that connection. No relationship develops without a process of discovery, and discovery happens by questions.

He Flirts

Even if you have doubts about the previous signs, this final one will make things very clear!

Flirting is an important part of human relationships. Humans flirt is to test the waters and see what it would be like to be in a relationship with someone. If he flirts over text, it doesn’t mean he’s going to ask you to be exclusive tomorrow. However, be assured he sees you as more than just a friend.

Look at the content of his texts. Are they boring, logical, or statements of fact? Do you feel little to no emotion when you read his messages? If so, that’s not flirting.

On the other hand, does he text with humor, charm, and lots of emojis? Is he seductive and adventurous? Do his words make you feel butterflies in your stomach? If so, he’s flirting with you and it means that he is feeling attraction and connection!

Go With Your Gut

You probably know how to tell if a guy likes you through text. I’m convinced that most of my friends who ask me to look at their texts know the answer too.  You can’t go wrong by following your gut.

Love and attraction aren’t logical at all. You process them in the emotional part of the brain. That’s why you run into most of your issues when you ignore your gut and try to logically assess the facts. That leads into a spiral of overthinking and second guessing.

While your gut could be wrong, if you have a strong sense that a guy likes you over text (or doesn’t), then you’re probably right on the money.

Did you know that the vagus nerve is important in making emotional decisions? Guess where it runs? From the brain to the gut. So if you’re literally feeling it in your gut, you are likely right!

In conclusion, these signs should help you determine over message what a guy is thinking about feeling about you. If you see a guy doing several or all of them, you can be assured that he likes you!

What you do after that is up to you. But, you can move forward in whatever way you want knowing that he shares your feelings.

About the Author

Jonathan Bennett

Jonathan Bennett

Jonathan Bennett is a writer, speaker, and dating/relationship expert. He's helped millions through his articles, speaking, consulting, and coaching. He's appeared in over 500 major publications, including Business Insider, The Wall Street Journal, and Psychology Today.

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