The Real, No-BS Reasons You’re Single in 2021 Despite Being a “Catch”

Just talk to anyone who is single. Or go onto online forums and subreddits related to dating and relationships. Basically, what you see are hordes of single “catches” who are mysteriously single. How can people who seem to have everything going for them – great jobs, lots of traveling, nice apartments and houses, and a

Why Am I Attracted To Older Men? 5 Reasons You Love Mature Guys

A good friend of mine recently married the love of her life. While this doesn’t seem like news, he is 55 and she is 25. You don’t see that every day! Age gaps were very common in the past and occasionally make the news today, usually involving celebrities or people in positions of power who

Why Do Guys Change After You Sleep With Them? 5 Reasons Why

Many of my coaching clients struggle to process their feelings after they sleep with someone for the first time. Not only are they processing feelings, but they guy is also processing feelings. This can create a lot of emotional volatility and turn a great thing (sex) into something confusing. Women often ask, why do guys

How Your Ego Is Hurting Your Romantic Life

Buddhists often speak about “attachment,” and according to the Buddhist “Four Noble Truths,” attachment is the cause of suffering. Remove attachment, and you will no longer suffer. This relates to “ego” because ego (i.e. a permanent and unchanging self, in Buddhist terms, atta) is the illusion that we are a certain way, life is a

Why Do Guys Flirt When They Are Not Interested? 5 Surprising Answers

One of the biggest complaints I hear from women as a dating coach is that a guy seems interested in them, they read the signs, feel a connection, then nothing happens. Usually, they have a great date, but he never calls them back. In some cases, they meet a man online and have fun, flirty

If He Likes Me, He’d Have Let Me Know By Now, Right?

I see a variation on this theme a lot when talking to women in various capacities, so I thought I’d finally address it here. Whether it’s an acquaintance, guy in a friend group, co-worker, etc, many women feel a connection, but wonder why this guy they may be crushing on just won’t make a move

Why Is My Boyfriend So Boring? The Answer Might Surprise You

A friend of mine recently came to me for advice about the guy she was marrying in a year. He had a good job, her parents liked him, and he treated her well. Everything seemed “perfect,” to an outsider at least. The problem? She felt nothing. No chemistry. No butterflies. Nothing. She vented to me

Why Do You Ignore Your Partner’s Red Flags? The Science Behind It

When you’re in love with him, he’s a misunderstood creative type, who does his own thing…a dashing rebel whom nobody, including your friends and the county judge, understands but you. After you break up you realize he was a lazy, manipulative bum on parole who just wouldn’t work and probably used you for sex and

Dating Karma: You Are Getting Out Of Dating What You Put In

You hear the word “karma” thrown around a lot with dating. It’s usually used in a negative sense – as a way to declare that an ex or someone who rejected you will “get what they deserve.” In this sense, karma is basically used to mean “you’ll get what you deserve because you wronged me!”

Dating In The Time Of Coronavirus (Positives, Negatives, and Adapting)

The coronavirus disease, also called Covid-19, is impacting virtually every area of our lives. And, it is also impacting dating and relationships in real ways. In many states (definitely in my state of Ohio), bars and restaurants are closed (except for carryout). Mass gatherings are banned. Concerts and festivals are prohibited as well. Dating during