If He Likes Me, Why Did He Block Me? 5 Possible Reasons
A friend of mine met a guy on Bumble who seemed perfect. They hit it off instantly and added each other on Snapchat. They messaged all day, sharing details about their lives, sent photos, and planned their first date for the upcoming weekend.
That’s when the unthinkable happened. On the morning of their date, his profile disappeared. She worried that he had an accident or maybe the app malfunctioned. The truth hurt even more. He blocked her.
“If he likes me, why did he block me???” she asked me, trying to hold back her frustration. Since you’re reading this article, you’re probably just as baffled as my friend. How can a guy go from liking you and talking to you one minute, then blocking you the next?
While I can’t get in the mind of all men, from my dating and relationship coaching experience and research, here are five possible reasons.
He Has Relationship Issues
Relationships can be difficult, especially for people who’ve been hurt in the past. Even men who pretend to be tough still might have a lot of hidden problems.
A cheating ex might have traumatized him years ago. He may never have processed a recent break up. The speed of the developing relationship with you could have caused him anxiety and stress. It’s possible he had strong feelings for you, but feared commitment. Perhaps he has mental health problems on top of all this.
A guy like this already can’t cope with his feelings. He also may not have the courage to be direct and honest with you. As a result, he does the easy thing (for him) and blocks you. It beats having to open up and be vulnerable.
He’s Hiding Something
Lying is surprisingly common on dating apps. It’s very easy to hide behind a screen and make up an entirely different life, including age, height, marital status and even photos! Anyone can be a catfish with minimal effort.
If you’re asking if he likes me why did he block me, you might not even know who really liked you to begin with! The match you thought was a single, handsome, successful, thirty-something guy could be a married, unemployed, ugly fifty year old.
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If he blocks you, perhaps he felt you would soon discover his lies and he got nervous Maybe his wife or girlfriend found out and he had to block you to keep that relationship. He might have just felt bad or couldn’t keep up the lies anymore.
He Changed His Mind
Online dating gives people a lot of choice. It also creates what is called the “paradox of choice” or “choice overload” which happens when you have so many options, making a final choice becomes difficult. For example, some people can never commit to one person romantically because they’re constantly comparing their many matches and admirers.
With all this choice, the guy who blocked you simply could’ve found someone else he liked. He still likes you, of course. He just likes someone else better or thinks that his perfect match is just a “right swipe” away. Rather than telling you the truth or coming up with an excuse, he picked the coward’s way out and just blocked you.
He Didn’t Like You
I have a friend who thinks that every woman who smiles in his general direction is in love with him. Of course, he gets very disappointed when he finds out these women not only don’t love him, they don’t even like him!
If a guy blocks you on social media or messaging, then you might have to accept that he didn’t really like you all that much in the first place.
I recommend that you look back at your messages with him and try to be objective. Do you think you really had something special or were you just being hopeful?
Sometimes we project our own values and feelings on another person and that clouds our thinking. You might have liked him so much that you assumed he felt the same. Because of this, you couldn’t see the truth about how he really felt.
He Used You
I hate to say it, but some guys truly only care about their own selfish needs. Using a woman for sex is common, but that’s not all. They could want validation, attention, or someone to make them feel better after a breakup. Once they get what they want from you, they move on to someone else.
It might be hard to admit, but he might have used you for something and, rather than be honest, just decided to block you and move on. Maybe you finally had sex with him or sent dirty photos. Perhaps his ex came back and he didn’t need you for attention anymore. Regardless of his motives, you served a purpose and he acted like a total jerk.
While these five reasons are good guesses, remember that you might never know exactly why he liked you, but still blocked you. He could’ve blocked you for literally any reason, no matter how ridiculous or awful. You’ll probably never know and must accept that.
But, in the end, his reason for blocking you doesn’t really matter. If everything seems great and he blocks you, that reveals a lot about his personality and core values. You don’t want to be with someone like that anyway.
The best thing is to move on and breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you no longer have to waste your time on a guy like that!