Signs He’s A Good Guy: 6 Traits to Identify Quality Men
Six months ago, a good friend started dating a guy who seemed incredible. Handsome and charming, he had a good job, a nice car, and made her laugh. She quickly wondered if she had found “the one” and started to fall for him after a few dates.
But, a couple of months later, his true personality revealed itself. He manipulated, lied, and even became verbally abusive. She broke it off, but still loved him, fighting contradictory feelings for months. She wished she had never fallen so quickly.
While many guys seem great at first, knowing the real signs he’s a good guy can be difficult. Like my friend, many women don’t see the truth until it’s too late. By then, they’ve already fallen for a bad guy and it causes a lot of pain.
Many women focus on things like height, body type, income level, age range, and so on when determining if a guy is compatible. These certainly are important to keep in mind. But, a guy can be perfect on a “checklist,” but be a horrible human being.
While you always want to date someone attractive, you also want to look for signs he’s a good guy too. This article will give you six signs that the guy you love is more than just a hot body and pretty face, but also someone who will treat you right.
He Treats Others Well
My friend noticed on the second date that her “dream guy” yelled at a waiter because he forgot to bring his drink. She didn’t like his behavior, but didn’t think about it too much. However, if you want to know how a guy will treat you, look at how he treats others, especially people he doesn’t need to treat well.
I recommend that women especially look at how a man treats hired help like servers, hostesses, bus drivers, janitors, etc. Is he kind and generous to everyone? Or, does he look down on others and treat them with rudeness and disrespect?
How a guy acts towards other people, especially those who have lower status, is a good indicator of his true self. If he treats others poorly, you will be next.
He Has A Good Relationship With Exes
Unless you’re dating a guy who has no relationship experience, he has a track record. Those past relationships can tell you a lot about him and how he acts towards his partners. While people can change, they usually stay pretty consistent in their behavior.
One of the biggest signs he’s a good guy is that he still has good relationships with his exes. He doesn’t have to necessarily be friends with them. But, if they don’t hate him and he isn’t constantly involved in drama, it’s a good sign.
If, on the other hand, they all hate him and he badmouths them all the time, take it as a huge red flag. You might end up as another ex who can’t stand the guy.
He’s Upfront With You
It isn’t shocking, but being honest improved the quality of relationships. Good relationships require total trust. If you truly want to fall in love with a good guy, then you’ll want someone who is upfront and honest with you.
Honestly doesn’t just involve not telling lies. It also includes being upfront and assertive when needed. For example, if he’s running late, he will call and tell you. If he is having a bad day, he will tell you instead of being a moody jerk.
You might find someone who is upfront and honest a little shocking at first because it isn’t common. But, it will make the relationship better in the long run not to have to play the games associated with lying and holding back.
He’s A Good Communicator
In order to be truly open and honest, he also will need to be a good communicator. In fact, communication skills are a sign that he is a good guy. Why? Because communication is more than just words.
A guy who communicates is showing you two things. First, it shows that he is making you a priority. He is taking time out of his day to interact with you. Second, and most importantly, it demonstrates that he is committed to making the relationship succeed.
Studies show that negative communication leads to increased breakups. So, if the guy you like can’t take the time to talk to you or refuses to openly discuss problems in the relationship, be warned! But, if he is happy to talk to you and easily discusses anything, even the hard stuff, you’ve found a great guy!
He Takes Responsibility
The allegedly perfect guy from my opening paragraph never apologized or tried to change his behaviors. If he did something wrong, they would fight until the issue was dropped or she apologized. But, he never owned up to his role in any problem or took responsibility for his bad behavior.
A good guy will take responsibility for his life. This means doing his best to fulfill his obligations like paying bills, being there for others, and acting in a responsible way. It also means owning up to his shortcomings, apologizing when necessary, and making changes to do better.
Good men will always want to do better. They won’t always succeed or be perfect. But, they will accept responsibility and try their best to make things right. If you see that behavior in a guy, it’s a good sign he will be a great partner in a relationship.
His Actions Are Good
One of the most important signs he’s a good guy is that he is well-rounded, works hard to be his best, cares about his health, and is happy to bring you into that incredible world.
Look carefully at how he spends his time rather than the words he tells you. Is he focused only on himself? Does he spend all of his time playing video games or doing unhealthy or dangerous things? Do others see him as a jerk or loser?
Or, is it the opposite?
Does he volunteer for charity and make a difference in the world? Does he care about others and love animals? Do other people admire him and want his attention? Is his life so interesting and fulfilling that you can’t wait to be with him?
If he’s a good man, then his actions will reflect it. They are far more important than words.